Own Your Shit

It's not as easy as you might think. 

Sometimes it's scary, often it's  uncomfortable and definitely messy.

But it's yours and if you want to grow up and be responsible and stop being a victim it is necessary.

Some people never do it.

We play the blame game. It was our mother, our childhood, our ex-wife or our boss. Not me, never me. I didn't.  I couldn't.  It's not my fault.

We are perpetual victims. When we do something or  something happens we throw our hands up in the air and parade out our list of excuses. 

When someone calls us out we jump to defend ourselves.  It's because of our mother, our lover,  our childhood, our boss... but not me. I didn't. I couldn't. 

We stay stuck. Until we own it. Until we find the strength and the courage to say "Yes! I did that. It's mine."

Then we are free. 

We are free to make different choices. Or to make the same choices again and own them openly and honestly. 

Yup, that's my shit. Sometimes it stinks. Sometimes it's messy. Sometimes it's uncomfortable.  But it's mine.

That moment is powerful.  It washes away guilt and shame. All of a sudden we can speak our truth. We can heal from past wounds. 

Of course those things happened with your mother and your lover and your boss. Things happened in your childhood and in your marriage. Life is hard and it hurts. 

But we all have the choice to own our shit or to blame others. We have the choice to speak our truth or hang our head in shame.  Not one of us is perfect but each one of us is imperfectly whole.

It's time to stop denying who you are and what you do. It's time to stand up and own your shit. Claim it. Deal with it. Then move on.

Yes, that's me! I did that.